If your marriage has never been anything more than two people living together and getting their own needs met then divorce may be the answer. Marriage is a unified coupling of two people who work for the best interest of the relationship. Married couples work together for the good of the relationship. If there is no couple; only two people fighting for their own needs now would be a good time to either commit to changing the dynamics of the relationship or parting ways.
Many events occur in your life divorce is one of the hardest It can, however be necessary and when it's necessary, it's best to have someone on your side that knows how to navigate the process. For you mediation may be the best route to go.
Are you angry at your spouse and threatening divorce out of frustration over the problems in the marriage or life? Do you use threats of divorce to get your way or as a means of having power over your spouse? Are you frustrated and feel that threatening divorce will finally get your spouse’s attention and hoping they will take you seriously? If it is solutions you are looking for, threatening divorce may not get you where you want to be. Do you need couples therapy? If it is divorce you need then stop threatening and take a mature, informed step in the right direction and consider mediation.
If you are ready for divorce you will have let go of any emotional attachments you have to your spouse. These are good feelings and negative feelings that often come into play during marital conflict. Deciding on divorce at a time when you are overwhelmed with emotions won't solve problems. It generates problems and compounds any hurt and frustration you may be feeling.
Unless you can look at your spouse as an individual who deserves your respect, even during the divorce process you are asking for trouble. If you cannot, the divorce process will be riddled with frustration, anger and distrust of the motives of your spouse.
Are you hoping that a divorce will mean your spouse will start treating you better? Maybe they will realize what they have lost and make the changes you need them to make. If so, you are divorcing for the wrong reasons. Divorce will only promote conflict, not resolve it.
Your mindset will determine what kind of life you will have after your divorce. Will you be strong, take responsibility and let go of any anger and resentment? Or, will you remain bitter, resentful and feel like a victim? The attitude you choose to live with will determine, not only the kind of divorce you have but the quality of life you have after you divorce.
At WHYmediate?, we give you the tools you need to resolve conflict in a positive learning environment.
WHYmediate? Mediation Services
4500 South Lakeshore Drive Suite 300
Tempe, AZ 85282
(480) 777-5500
http://whymediate.solutions
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