To Divorce or Not to Divorce

To Divorce or Not to Divorce, Is That Your Question? It is now more acceptable than ever to walk away from an unhappy marriage. But in doing so are some of us giving up too easily?

Of course, you are not alone in considering to leave your marriage. One in two marriages in the U.S. now ends in divorce, and yet, despite the statistic, what happens after all those divorces is often ignored. 

No one expects it to be easy, especially when there are children involved, but does life-after-divorce meet the expectations of those divorcing have of it? Do they feel released from an unhappy marriage? Or do they secretly and sadly wonder if there could have been another way forward? In short, could their marriages have been made to work? 

Or could the divorce have had a much better outcome?

Many people think walking away from an unhappy marriage is the only thing to do and yet, in many families, that is not the case. Many second and third marriages also fail. Statistically, these marriages are more likely to break down than first marriages. The couples can bring the same baggage to the ensuing marriages. They also bring failure, disappointment, guilt and children. 

Most children actually want their parents to remain together, even if the marriage is unhappy. Ask nearly any child of parents who are separating what it is they want, and they will say, "Mummy and Daddy to be together again." Children are often unaware of the level of tension in a household. People tend to forget this.

Are you beginning to question why you got married?

Never make life-changing decisions in the midst of emotional turmoil. Such consequential decisions should not be made when tensions are high. Get on level ground (so to speak) first so you can look at things more rationally. Do you, will you need help to accomplish this?

Are you ready to get divorced? If you're unhappy and think you're ready to call it quits you may need a counseling resource. Your next steps will be crucial to the entire rest of your life. What outcomes are you looking for? What are the real outcomes you can realistically expect?

At WHYmediate?, We believe in open communication – full disclosure of all possible issues, obstacles and solutions, sharing information, stories, experiences that will help you. We believe in progress, and that means change, transition and how to rationally and successfully let go.

At WHYmediate?, Find out if mediation can allow you to resolve Divorce conflicts in a positive learning environment.

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