Let’s start with why. I’m sorry to say that the real 'why' of divorce often goes unanswered. There is no one-size-fits-all answer to the why of divorce. Yes, there are the reasons we hear about, money (usually the lack thereof), substance abuse, physical or emotional abuse, drifting apart and the irreconcilable difference (whatever that means).
Who
This one is the one very hard pills to swallow… your spouse finds a brand new lover interest. Did you start your new life by being part of a marriage breakup? Did that give you any hint about your new life partner? While this can seem exciting as the other spouse, the shoe being on the other foot can be quite frightening.
What
This is often related to the “why” of divorce. Is No-fault divorce the reason for the increase in divorce rates? If a spouse is seriously ill the divorce rate goes up. Kind of tells you something about the vow, till death do us part. Of course while rare some times a spouse tries to hurry that condition along. We have all seen the news stories of this starting as early as the honeymoon. This gives a real different meaning to “match made in heaven.”
When
We have all heard about the seven year itch. Is it true? When it comes to married Americans, the seven-year itch is definitely real. According to the data compilers the average American couple that gets divorced makes it to year eight of marriage before splitting for good.
If you're a woman two or more years older than your husband, your marriage is 53 percent more likely to end in divorce than if he was one year younger to three years older. Wide age gaps between spouses can create sexual discord and other disagreements. Our current culture is so focused on personal satisfaction and happiness that some people feel this is a contributing factor in divorce.
Where
Yes, there are certain locations where divorce is more prevalent. If you live in a red state, you're 27 percent more likely to get divorced than if you live in a blue state. Maybe that's because red-state couples traditionally marry younger, and the younger the partners, the riskier the marriage. According to the U.S. Census Bureau, the states with the lowest median age at marriage are Utah, Arkansas, Kentucky, and Oklahoma.
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