As you go through the process of deciding that your
marriage is over and that process being completed you will experience a full
roller-coaster ride of emotions from the highest highs to the lowest of lows.
Divorce is actual a complex process, with many small details that need to be dealt
with properly so that both sides receive a proper and legal settlement.
Mediation is often the best way to reach a settlement.
In the initial phase of most marital break ups, emotions
often hinder the participants' ability to be reasonable. In addition, it is
also very common for only one partner to be ready to divorce. He or she wishes
to begin settlement negotiations, and the other party wishes to work on saving
the marriage. This difference in motivation tends to affect the chances of
mediation's success. It is extremely difficult to negotiate a price with
someone who is dead set against buying the item at any cost.
Can you imagine trying to know what needs to be covered on
your own and reach settlement under those emotional conditions without a
professional negotiator or mediator involved in that activity. Using a mediator
who is not emotional involved and has the experience to know what needs covered
and how to achieve the results you want, is the way to go.
No two marriages are the same, and so it only follows that
no two divorces will be the same, either. In fact, if you are contemplating
divorce, you have several options about how to proceed. In general terms, you
need to consider four broad categories of divorce alternatives: Do-It-Yourself
(DIY), Mediation, Collaborative and Litigation. Let’s take a look at the pros
and cons of each one.
Let’s rule out DIY right up front. This method often ends
up with one party getting the shaft, so to speak. Collaboration sounds nice but
couples who are getting divorced are seldom likely to be in a place mentally where
collaboration makes sense.
That leaves the two most common processes, mediation and litigation.
These days, the majority of divorcing couples choose the “traditional” model of
litigated divorce. Why are lawsuits a part of divorce? Because contrary to
popular belief, divorce usually does not involve two people mutually agreeing
to end their marriage. In 80 percent of cases, the decision to divorce is
unilateral, one party wants the divorce and the other does not. That split of
purpose is why mediation makes the most sense.
In divorce mediation, a divorcing couple works with a
neutral mediator who helps both parties come to an agreement on all aspects of
their divorce.
At WHYmediate?, Find out why mediation will allow you to resolve
many different types of conflicts in a positive learning environment that
covers how to deal with all the upcoming days in your life.
WHYmediate? Mediation Services
4500 South Lakeshore Drive Suite 300
Tempe, AZ 85282
(480) 777-5500
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