The Myths Surrounding The Divorce Process

There are a lot of myths about divorce that keep infecting our society. We're used to seeing divorce in the media as either a grand emotional battle or something that involves just "signing the papers" and it's over. In real life, divorce is generally none of those things. Divorce is also a tough time even if you have the best lawyers or easiest case, so don't be afraid to reach out to friends, family or other groups and professionals for support and help.

Myth Number One: Divorce Harms Children
Oh course divorce can be stressful on kids, but not so much, harmful. What does the most damage is parents fighting in front of the kids.

Think about it. Who likes to be around conflict all the time? Tension is contagious and kids in particular don't have the tools or defenses to handle angry exchanges from their parents. There is a great deal of research indicating that what children need more than anything is a stable and peaceful environment. That may be with parents living together, but it can also occur when parents are living apart. The key is that parents get along and stay present for their children. Kids shouldn’t be caught in parental crossfire, used as a pawn or treated like a surrogate spouse.

Myth Number Two: Divorce Equals Failure
Whether it’s a starter marriage (a marriage that ends within five years and doesn’t result in kids) or a marriage that has stood the test of time, divorce doesn’t mean you’ve failed.

The one measure we have to determine whether a marriage is successful or not is by how long it lasts. Yet, there are many people who have healthier, better lives after divorce. Perhaps the couple has raised healthy kids who’ve flown the coop and now they want to take a different direction in their lives. Why is that a failure? Many times the media clamors to place the blame somewhere, yet there was no one and nothing to blame. A marriage simply ended with both of their blessings.

Myth Number Three: Second Marriages Are More Likely To End In Divorce
Some 45 per cent of marriages between first-timers are destined for the divorce courts, while just 31 per cent of second weddings will end in failure, the Marriage Foundation has claimed.

The results suggested that those on their second union benefit from age and experience, and are more ready to commit, and will have carefully weighed the pros and cons of getting married rather than slide into it without much thought.

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