Are Your Holiday Plans Going Well With Your EX?

I think the question of “Are Your Holiday Plan Going Well With Your ex-spouse?” is a very important question and more on point this time of year than any other. So do I need to ask that question again?

Is the gifts you are giving causing a problem or should I say problems? How about even the ability to be able to purchase the gifts your children want and deserve? What is happening with the schedule to have enough time and at the right place? Generally, these are the three main areas that can have challenges when trying to make holiday arrangements.

If you’re getting along well with your ex, it may make sense for the two of you to have one holiday gathering with your kids. But if there's any risk of conflict, it’s better for each parent to have a separate holiday celebration with the children.

Do you know a lot of people who have good relations with their former partner? If they got along well they would probably still be married.

Are you wondering how you will survive the upcoming holiday season with your ex-spouse as co-parents? For newly divorced individuals, life is often very chaotic. You need to settle into a new routine and heal your broken family. Often you, your ex-spouse, and your child/ren are feeling hurt, sad and insecure. But just because you are divorced, it doesn't mean that the holidays have to be a mess.

Often the best way to avoid problem with holiday planning was to address that through mediation as the divorce plan.  Agreements can be much less confrontational when done using mediation.

The easiest way to survive with your ex-spouse during the holidays as co-parents, is to stick to your co-parenting plan and keep your communication short, and have conversations related only to your child's needs during the different schedule specified on your plan throughout the holidays. After a lot of trial and error, we decided to no longer make it about our feelings for each other. The holiday was about making it special for our child. In learning how to do that, I found that the following 6 Tips helped me survive the holiday season harmoniously.

Even after a divorce you can use mediation to solve problems. Do you want to have to fight with everything you do with your children for the next many years?

At WHYmediate?, Find out if mediation can allow you to resolve all marital conflicts in a positive learning environment that covers how to deal with all the special challenges in your life.

WHYmediate? Mediation Services
4500 South Lakeshore Drive Suite 300 
Tempe, AZ 85282 
(480) 777-5500
http://whymediate.solutions