Contemplating Divorce... Should You Stay or Should You Go?

As you know change is difficult. No change is more basic and fundamental than the dissolution of your marriage. Is fear of change, the one thing holding you back from an adjustment that may be necessary in your life.

Family law attorneys have called January "Divorce Month” for years. In fact, the first Monday of January, when the bulk of the calls from would-be divorcees come in, is even dubbed “Divorce Day,” or "D-Day" for short. Does that affect “change” in the other months?

Or will the loss of that lovin feeling be the straw that breaks your camel’s back? What do you do when you feel that the love you once shared with your mate has disappeared, with no apparent possibility of revival, but you adore your children and can’t imagine spending even one day apart from them?

Maintaining a romantic bond for years on end is challenging, but adding kids to the mix and keeping a romantic connection for the entire length of the relationship is extremely so, if not impossible, even with all the great advice books out there on the topic.

We all know the cliché of the spouses who grow apart after having kids, he wants sex, she’s too exhausted; he feels rejected, she’s resentful, and then the man has what we call a “mid-life crisis,” including an illicit affair with a 20-something. Finally, he leaves his wife, the mother of his children, to go relive his good old carefree days, while she stays in the family home with the responsibility of caring for their children and running the home.

Admittedly, there is no perfect choice when your marriage as you knew it is over. There are just less unhealthy options. 

One thing to keep in mind how you go about the divorce is not without options and mediation is a good one to consider.

At WHYmediate? we can work together to: 
Discover the WHY of each mediation participant to instantly deepen communication. 
Create a Disputants Agenda for 1-3 mediation sessions on Remaining Dispute within an Existing Case. 
Prepare memorandum Agreement for Attorneys or divorcing parties.

Divorce is the act of dissolving your marriage. When that marriage ends the family is transformed. The events that occur after a divorce or separation will directly affect the future of the parents, children, and their relationships, which is why managing and organizing the parental roles is essential as part of our process of resolution.

At WHYmediate?, Find out if mediation can allow you to resolve Divorce conflicts in a positive learning environment.

WHYmediate? Mediation Services
4500 South Lakeshore Drive Suite 300 
Tempe, AZ 85282 
(480) 777-5500
http://whymediate.solutions