"I thought I'd enjoy being alone," is a common thought process. But in reality I'm lonely. Whenever my friends complain about how needy their husbands or children are, I say, 'Try living without that.'
Your Life Won't Be More Carefree
As a self-confident, independent woman with a fast-moving career and no children, many women couldn't wait to be free of the pain of their dying marriage.
They no longer have to put with up the husband’s problems. They will be able to do what they want when they want to. But after the divorce, it was their career and the home that began to hold them hostage. They were imprisoned by all the things they thought made them look good."
You Trade One Set Of Problems For Another
Even the most amiable break-ups bring deep wounds. There are always consequences to divorce.
"What I didn't anticipate," says Mike, who hasn't remarried, "was the way my friends perceived me. All of a sudden I became damaged goods. One couple, who'd been my close friends for 20 years, became cool toward me after the divorce."
Feelings Can Be Deceiving
Many newly married, learn that following their feelings can have tragic consequences.
"My husband was away a lot, and most evenings I was home alone. I felt lonely and empty. Many nights I cried myself to sleep and wondered why I ever got married.
"When I met a man who made me feel alive and passionate about life, I concluded these feelings of excitement confirmed I was no longer in love with my husband.
Even if the grass seems greener on the other side of the fence try to consider it may all be a false perception. When you are sure know you have choices that will make the break easier to live with. Consider mediation over divorce court.
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